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Hi, I am Richard, and I promised the webmaster of this site that I
will post my life story, my life ups and downs of being gay. 19 years
ago I bet my mother did not know that I would be gay, and neither did
I. People make assumptions that being gay is a choice when it's not. I
noticed I was different at the age when you start to 'fancy' people, I
noticed I should be looking at the opposite sex not the same sex, this
is not a good feeling at first and can be quite depressing, Personally
I tried to force myself to like the opposite sex but I noticed it
wasn't going to be. The Internet is an amazing place to learn about
yourself, and you can talk about what your going though to someone on
the opposite side of the world knowing that if they hate you can
simply click 'block', I was not happy for many years about my
sexuality but I kept it to myself and tried to live a happy life, I
knew I would not tell anyone in school because I went to a rough
school, people guessed I was gay and I denied it, people in school
were not nice they would be mean just for being a tad different so I
kept my head down and did my classes and went home, school was not an
supportive environment. In September 2005 I started college and I got
myself comfortable and got to know people, once I did this I couldn't
handle living life a lie, pretending to look at girls and talking
about things I was not int rested in, so I came out as gay to my best
friend who was extremely supportive, a few days after I wanted to tell
my mum, it took a few attempts and I nearly fainted doing so, she was
asking things like "So you don't like girls then", I answered all her
questions and we've not changed at all which is very supportive seeing
that some parents can dis-own their kids for their sexuality, the bad
thing for my mother though is that she has not only a gay son, but a
lesbian daughter, I still remain to tell one of my sisters and my
father but that will happen when I feel like it's the right time,
although I am not needing to tell them as it's my life, the few weeks
after telling my best friend, I wanted to be open to the world, so I
IM'd the gossip of the class that I was indeed gay and it did not take
long for me to be asked about 20 times from everyone in my college
class "Are you gay", most people who were intelligent enough accepted
me for who I am, but the idiot's of the class respond with things like
"ew you better not fancy me" and "you know when you have sex, do you
get s**t on your pe*is?" I ignored these questions, after the first
week the novelty wore off and most people got on with life.
In 2008 I get very few people who hate me, I get strangers hating me
more than people I know like class mates hating me, I feel the people
who bully you for being different are insecure of themselves as there
is no reason to hate, I cannot help myself, I would not CHOOSE to pick
a sexuality that's harder to find singles, as there are many more
straight people than gay/bi, we cannot go up to people and ask them
out as we could be beaten up if they are homophobic.
People who hate you for being different forget that being hated on
makes you stronger, I've heard every name in the book, I ignore people
and have the satisfaction to know that I am better than them, I don't
judge people, I understand people who are different from everyone
else, we are strong and we will unite and help each other as we ARE
amazing people.
